Introduction- Building Skills

Posted On Sep 16, 2016

I’m always amazed by Google, Facebook, and I’m sure countless other programs that are reading my keystrokes, following me and my cell phone around town, and making very educated guesses about what I do, what service I may need or what I may want to buy in my day to day life. Sometimes it’s way off base, but then again sometimes Google seems to know what I want before I realize it myself.

When I first started posting about opening a private counseling practice and mental health education business, I must have been getting it right. Suddenly, my news feed was clogged with small business coaching ads and free trials of mental health practice management software. Lately though, I have started getting offers of discount construction supplies in my feed and it has occurred to me that the message of Building Skills might be veering off course. It must be time for a little clarification.

My husband Robb is also my business partner and is the other half of the “we” at Building Skills. He is an athlete and a pretty good one. I’m not. I made assumptions a long time ago that I was never going to be any good at sports and that some people were just born to be able to dunk basketballs and people like me were never going to be able to. I don’t think we had been seeing each other long when I managed to very effectively offend Robb by voicing this belief. Not just about me and my supposed lack of potential, but because of what I was saying about him- discounting the tens of thousands of hours he has put into improving his athletic skill over the years. I assumed he was just “born that way” and that’s all there was to it. But that wasn’t how he experienced it at all. He made me think differently about my own potential- challenging my long-internalized beliefs about what was possible for a “klutz” like me.

All those years ago, we had a conversation about building skills that has continued and that we would like to share with others. We choose Building Skills because:

  • Improving life skills is one of the major reasons people seek counseling in the first place- it might be to communicate more clearly or to gain tools to cope with life’s challenges.

  • Personal growth is a process and a cycle of practice and improvement (and sometimes setbacks).

  • Each of us continues to build upon what we know throughout our lives- when we stop building skills, we become stagnant, sluggish, stifled.

  • Practice and personal responsibility are central to our philosophy. Not because we think people are “at fault” or “to blame,” but because if you want change in your life, it takes a lot of practice, commitment, and repetition to make it happen. We want to support you as you do that, but we can’t do it for you.

Welcome to my blog. I look forward to sharing some of what I have learned so far. If you were hoping for home renovation tips though, that’s not a skill I’ve worked on yet!  

Learn more about Building Skills at

Marsha Jones, LMFT

16825 48th Ave W Lynnwood WA 98037

Private Practice
I believe in using respect, direct communication, compassion, humor, creativity, and interventions from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to help you reach your personal therapy goals. I have worked in community mental health since 2003 which has provided me with extensive experience in treatment for depression, anxiety, trauma and attachment issues. I have specialized in working with people affected by traumatic experiences, to include veterans, people connected to the foster care system, and victims of crime. Call today for a free consultation to see if I might be the right counselor for you.