8 Secrets to Happiness and Finding Your Authentic Self

Posted On Jan 12, 2017

8 Secrets to Happiness and Finding Your Authentic Self

Life is going to throw us a few reminders along our journey often designed to remind us of how small we really are. These eight secrets are strategies I have personally used in times of extreme stress. I have also prescribed many of these secrets to clients to assist them in re-aligning with their authentic selves.

1.Have a routine throughout the day as well as your week. Otherwise, the world can become pretty confusing.  Make sure that you design your routine so that it is trailed with seeds of personal meaning throughout the day, and allow flexibility and unpredictability in.

2.Allow yourself to be vulnerable to failure as well as rejection. Make sure to take a healthy risk every week that makes you feel uncomfortable.  For some people that risk might be to make a cold call for work, and for others it may mean looking into the mirror and reminding yourself that you are loved.

3.Be grateful. The most challenging aspect of being grateful is to find a deeper meaning in what you are grateful for. It is critical to search for your unique personal lesson in life’s events that fuels your personal growth. Even when life throws you tragic circumstances, which it will if you are breathing, you should work to find the lesson in which you are grateful for that experience.

4.Surround yourself with people that allow themselves to be emotionally vulnerable, however are self-aware as well.

5.Practice creativity. Make a point to always have something that you are learning outside of your work and home life, so that you can see your own progress evolve. Even activities like learning Photoshop or how to edit videos on your computer can become very fulfilling experiences, and are key to becoming unstuck.

6.Volunteer and help those less fortunate than yourself.

7.Listen to your body. You’ve already trained your brain to trick yourself.

8.Realize that happiness is just a glimpse of a feeling within a brief moment. Don’t get caught up when it fades away, just keep designing an authentic meaningful life and happiness will have more living space when it comes back to visit.

Ryan G. Beale, MA, TLLP is the CEO and founder of Therapy.Live. He is a licensed Psychotherapist and author of the book Forty Days Off Facebook.

Ryan G. Beale, M.A., TLLP

32780 Grand River Ave, Suite 202A, Farmington, MI 48336

Authenticity and Self Expression
Managing Life Events and Changes
I have a wide array of life and business experiences as well as a specific burning passion for wellness and mental health. At the age of 23, I moved to Chicago and started a successful commercial real estate brokerage firm representing some of the largest retailers and landlords in the country. In 2006, I founded Chattertree.com one of the first private family social networks in the world. It was the first such network to become COPPA compliant, which allowed children under 13 to join and use the technology. Chattertree went on to connect more than 10,000 families from over 100 countries around the world. A pivotal event in my life occurred when my family and I lost my eldest brother Steve to suicide. I returned to Michigan in 2011 to help work to stabilize my family, emotionally and financially, after this tragedy. Since then, I have made addressing mental health problems and the associated stigma preventing individuals from seeking care my top priority. My passion for mental health and wellness has lead me to participate in a range of local and national campaigns from the Pepsi Refresh Project to metro Detroit's Out of the Darkness Walks. I returned to school and completed a Master’s Degree in Clinical Psychology at the Michigan School of Professional Psychology and have received my postgraduate state license. I have worked at the county crisis center as a crisis interventionist as well as in private practice. I began building Therapy.Live in November of 2015 with an amazing team of passionate experts. In 2017 I, along with my team of experts and passionate thought leaders launched the evidence-supported Prepare U Experiential Mental Health Curriculum. This curriculum is our biggest contribution to date in the education space. Prepare U is changing the conversation of mental health around the country and is saving lives on a massive scale. Through my work in mental health, I have been on a journey that I had never anticipated. I have collaborated with international leaders, including the former United States Surgeon General. I have been an expert panelist on national media ranging from the Huffington Post to Fox News. I am humbled and honored at the opportunities that life has brought me through many challenging and painful tragic events, which have guided me to become an advocating voice in moving the needle in mental health for generations. I feel that my work in mental health after a decade is only getting started. I am the proud father of three beautiful daughters, a husband, a martial arts enthusiast, and I have a great appreciation for boating and being by the water.